Why the bar at your wedding shouldn’t be an afterthought

In the grand orchestration of a wedding, couples often obsess over floral arrangements, lighting design and detailed seating charts. The dress, the photographer, the five-course dinner - each element is painstakingly curated. And yet, one of the most powerful forces behind a wedding’s success is consistently left until the eleventh hour: the bar!

Let’s be honest, it’s not often you hear a couple say: “First things first, let’s lock in a great bar team.” But maybe they should.

“You can spend months working on the seating plan or deciding the perfect shade of napkin, but if the bar’s giving bored function-room energy, it can all quickly lose its magic,” says Luke Shelton-Sharp, co-founder of room two, the London-based cocktail studio and event planner.

Five reasons the bar should be a top priority:

1. It’s the social hub of the night.
Every guest gravitates to the bar at some point. It’s where old friends reconnect, new ones are made, and spontaneous moments unfold. Treating it as an afterthought risks losing one of the key engines of the party.

2. Great bartenders elevate the mood.
A talented bar team does far more than pour drinks. They read the room, boost energy, and drive interaction. “The energy between bartenders behind the bar can totally shape the atmosphere,” says room two co-founder Luke Shelton-sharp. “If the bar team’s having fun, your guests will too.”

3. Cocktails tell your story.
Signature serves can reference your relationship, your travels, or inside jokes. “We’ve built cocktails that nod to a couple’s first date, favourite city, even their pets,” says Luke. Beyond flavour, drinks can align with your aesthetic – matching the colour scheme, theme, or season.

4. Design matters.
A beautifully styled bar becomes part of your décor. Think of the back bar as a visual feature: gleaming glassware, elegant bottles, tactile garnishes. Add the sensory theatre of shaking tins, clinking ice, and the bartender’s performance - and you have a whole extra layer of experience.

5. It’s a powerful return on investment.
The bar is often where the best memories are made, from tipsy speeches to new romances. Guests will remember the vibe of the night, not the shade of linen. Investing in the right bar team pays off in atmosphere, connection, and how long the party lasts.

The bottom line.

Making your bar exceptional doesn’t mean emptying your budget. It’s not about smoke machines or gold leaf martinis (unless that’s your thing). It’s about intention. It’s about energy. It’s about finding a team who gets how to turn a standard setup into a moment-maker.

With a bit of thought, your bar can become one of the most memorable and joy-filled parts of the day. It’s not about how much you spend, it’s about what you prioritise: connection, atmosphere, and a damn good drink.